Its time we celebrate ourselves

The recent Bollywood film, English Vinglish got me thinking about self-belief and how as women we crave for validation from our external environment rather than being confident & aware of our own worth & potential. In this film, the protagonist, Shashi (played competently by Sridevi) is a housewife, with a teenage daughter, young son, husband and mother-in-law. Shashi runs a small catering business from home and is a very capable homemaker. In spite of her many talents, Shashi suffers from an acute complex because she cannot speak or understand English. Frequent snide remarks from her teenage daughter & loving but insensitive husband on her lack of English speaking skills further deflate her self belief and chip away at her self-confidence. A window of opportunity to change the situation presents itself, when she visits New York for a family wedding and surreptitiously enrols herself for a 4-week English speaking course. Interestingly, the first “big” word that Shashi learns is “entrepreneur”. When she introduces herself and talks about her catering business her teacher promptly responds that she is in fact an entrepreneur. Just the title of “entrepreneur” gives tremendous confidence to Shashi and she begins to take pride in her exceptional cooking skills.

But do we really need approval from our environment to feel good about ourselves? I think as women, we are often our own worst enemy. We are seldom happy with the way we look, our jobs, life etc or even take some time to sit back and appreciate and take pride in our own accomplishments. I have come across several exemplary women who are remarkably enterprising and run beauty parlours, catering businesses, design clothes and jewellery or even give tuitions. But most of these women underplay their achievements and some even lack self-confidence and are quite subservient to their in-laws or husbands. The point that I am trying to make is that we need to start celebrating ourselves and not wait for extraordinary accomplishments to make us feel good about ourselves. Self-validation, self-belief and self-confidence are the essential prerequisites of being a successful entrepreneur.

I have tremendous respect and admiration for homemakers who are so dismissive of the important role they play. I truly believe that good homemakers are the building blocks of a healthy society. A mother’s role in transmitting the right values to her children is priceless. At the same time so-called mundane things that we take for granted such as nutritious & timely meals, washed clothes and a clean house are all thanks to an efficient homemaker.

So let’s remember to appreciate the hard-working women in our lives and let’s also learn to love ourselves a little more. Oscar Wilde says it best, “To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance!”

Posted By: Supriya Mathur
Posted On: October 29, 2012

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